"CHILDHOOD DAYS"
by Lily Blackwell
(Written for Stephanie by her Nanna about 1980)

"Hokey pokey, penny a lump, that's the stuff to make you jump," the little man pushing the handcart would come calling down the street -always on a Sunday, and us children would leave whatever we were doing and run out to look at him in wonder and fascination. Sometimes, not often, we had a penny or halfpenny clutched tightly in our hands and very reluctantly we would exchange it for some Hokey pokey which he would plop into our cups. I say "sometimes, not often" because two miracles had to happen, and alas miracles did not often happen to us in those days of my childhood because we were very poor. One miracle was brought about if one of my favourite Uncles had given me a halfpenny, the other was if I could persuade my mother to let me have a cup -she daren't trust me with a cup with a handle in case I dropped it. So if I had a penny and a cup I got some Hokey pokey which was the nearest we ever got to ice-cream.

I had 12 Aunts and Uncles -my mother's sisters and brothers and two -a brother and sister of my father's so as most of these aunts and uncles married that gave me 28 aunts and uncles. Some of them were more like big brothers and sisters to me and as I was their first niece I am afraid they petted me quite a lot. My youngest Uncle, Uncle Billie was really my favourite and almost as soon as I could walk, he would carry me on his~ shoulder every Sunday afternoon to Sunday School. I loved Sunday and every year in the summer we had a 'Treat". All the children were taken into a field and we had games and races and our teas in a bag. Each bag had in it a piece of bread and butter, apiece of plain cake and a piece of fruit cake; to us it was a feast! We learned to sing some of the same hymns that you do -All things bright and beautiful, Twinkle twinkle little star, Away in a Manger.

My childhood home was in the Black Country -that part of the Midlands between Birmingham and Wolverhampton, a stretch of dirty, smoky towns, factories and coalmines. Our town, West Bromwich, was always called the Queen of the Black Country but even so there was very little beauty about it in 1907, the year I was born.

Our house was really a very squalid old cottage -the end one of three; ours was the first, on a corner, the other end one was built on to the Railway wall -the Goods Trains used to travel along this line carrying coal chiefly, from the mines. Sometimes we climbed over this wall to play at the side of the Railway Lines -we knew it was very dangerous and if my parents found out we were in real trouble, but sometimes we found a few wild flowers -dandelions, buttercups and dog daisies -in the grass at the side of the lines and as these were the only flowers we ever touched we thought it was worth it.

We had no garden at the back of our houses, but a big open yard. My father used to sell coal at this time so there were six stables in the yard for the cart horses, two big sheds to store the coal and plenty of space for the coal carts and wagons. If one of our customers ordered a load of coal it would be delivered in a cart or on one of the wagons. Prince, Bonnie or Blackie would draw the carts, and Queenie, Jenny or Rosie the flat wagons. Many of our customers couldn't afford to buy a load of coal so we had about 30 wheelbarrows and soap boxes on wheels and all these had to be filled with sixpenny worth or ninepenny worth of coal before I went to school. I used to help my mother shovel the coal into the barrels and boxes so that they would be ready for the children to collect when they came out of school at dinnertime. One of our favourite games was "Playing Shops". We got a piece of wood about 12 inches long and balanced it on a brick -like a seesaw -and used little pieces of coal or pebbles for "sweets".

Sometimes a fresh lot of straw would be needed for the stables as my father changed the straw every week. We looked forward to the fresh straw, it came in a big wooden crate, we used to tip the crate on its side and play "houses" in the straw. With all these games we no doubt got very dirty and did we need a bath! We had no bathroom of course, but a long tin bath which my mother used to set on the hearth in front of the fire. We had no water in the house, there was a tap in the middle of the yard and we had to carry all our water- for drinking, washing, and bathing in kettles or buckets from the yard tap. We had no hot water ever, it all had to be heated on the fire or gas stove in kettles or saucepans and carried to the bath or wash tub. When we had bathed the dirty water had to be ladled out in buckets. We never had warm water to wash in each day -only when we had a bath.

We had no indoor toilet; our toilet was a long way across the yard and had to be shared by the two families living in the two cottages in the yard. My mother was very concerned about this, she thought we should have our own toilet seat even if we couldn't have our own toilet so every time we went to the toilet we carried our own seat to it and brought it back again. I was always terrified in case anyone saw me. I had two sisters - younger than me, Ada Beatrice 4 years younger and Mabel Florence eight years younger. We always called Beaty "a Momma's baby" because she never let go of my mother's skirt or apron whatever my mother was doing. Once when Mom was scrubbing the floor (we had no carpets, just brick floors) Beaty was right by her side and suddenly stepped back and sat in the bucket of "floor water" wedging her bottom in the bucket. She stuck in the bucket quite firmly and Mom had to tip bucket and child upside down to release her. Of course that meant an extra bath!

I remember the day my sister Mabel was born. It was one Sunday, - a Sunday school anniversary which was always an important day in our lives. My sisters had naturally curly hair but my dead straight hair was the despair of my mother, so, as soon as I got home from school on Friday teatime I had to submit to my hair being tortured into "curling rags", -my hair was wrapped round and round the strips of rag, hopefully to produce ringlets. I would go out to morning Sunday school having endured the uncomfortable curling rags night and day from Friday until Sunday as proud as any peacock with my curls, but alas during the morning the glory would vanish and by the time I got home my hair would be as straight as pokers.

Alas the day my sister Mabel was born proved to be a black day indeed. First as soon as Beaty saw the new baby she cried and screamed jumping up and down in temper and nearly had hysterics, "Send her back, Mommy, send her back, I don't want a baby, send her back," -we realized at last how much of a Momma's baby she really was, but even worse was to come - first my beautiful curls had all vanished, but more disastrous still was my new hat. It was a beautiful brown straw hat with the most fabulous wreath of flowers all round it. I really loved that hat, but someone loved it even more for on my way in from the anniversary I had called in at the stable to see Queenie my favourite horse, - I always fed her with apple peel or a carrot or a lump of sugar whenever I had the chance, and the day I called to see her in my new hat she was over the moon and with one grab she severed the gorgeous wreath of flowers -white daisies, yellow buttercups, red poppies, blue cornflowers and ate the lot. Alas my hat was ruined.

Of course my childhood joys and adventures all revolved around Queenie. I found out I could climb up into her manger high on the stable wall and I would be in there amongst the hay until I was found out - generally when one of the men brought Queenie into the stable, or I would clamber onto her bare back as soon as her harness was taken off and ride her round the yard. Many were - the "shoutings at" and the "good hidings" I had for these escapades but it never once stopped me from doing it again.

There were very few cars in those days, but sometimes for a treat we would go out on a Sunday with Queenie or Prince in our wagonette. This was a sort of cart with bench seats in it, and we used to go out for a ride into the country -not very far as it would be ~ too tiring for the horse, we never stayed in the wagonette to ride up a hill, at the bottom of the hill we all had to get out and walk, we loved this as we might find some wild flowers or even a few blackberries. When we went out like this we always took tea with us and picnicked, mostly our tea was bread and jam -no butter as mom couldn't afford it, the very first time I remember having jam butter as well on my bread was when I was 18 and went out to tea. I always remember that tea as I had white AND BROWN bread, ~ and jam. We had plenty of food to eat but no luxuries and nothing was ever wasted -I hated cabbage and would always leave it, but sure enough when I did I would have it set before me for tea, supper, breakfast, dinner, tea... until it had gone. I didn't like rice pudding either!

One worry I had in childhood and right on to teenage years was SHOES. My father was firmly convinced that I had "weak ankles", and he believed the cure was strong, heavy shoes, and so whenever I had a pair of new shoes, he chose the strongest, heaviest BOYS shoes that could be found. Tears and pleading were of no avail and looking at my sisters', light-weight fashionable girl's shoes didn't help.

We didn't have many toys but I remember two Christmas gifts very well. One was a "Ladies Companion", - I was supposed to guess what it was but I never did guess and after all the wonderful things I thought it might be I felt very disappointed when I found out what it really was. It was a dark green cardboard box with Ladies Companion ~ printed on it in gold letters and inside the box was a packet of sewing needles, three reels of cotton, a thimble and about six liner buttons. I wasn't a bit thrilled but my Christmas stocking was partly filled as usual with an apple, orange, a few nuts, a few sweets and a bright new penny -the first money I ever had. But one Christmas when I was 7 I had a most gorgeous doll, a breakable doll with fair curly hair and pink cheeks and eyes which opened and closed. One of my Aunties had made her a beautiful pink satin coat with a bit of brown fur round the collar and cuffs. I remember carrying her up the street - very proud I was and I couldn't have been looking where I was going so I fell down (I was always falling down and making holes in the knees of my stockings). Dorothy, as I had christened my beautiful doll, wasn't broken fortunately, but alas her marvellous coat was covered with mud. I suppose I couldn't blame anyone that I wasn't allowed to play with her again, she mysteriously vanished upstairs somewhere, I never saw her again until I was 17.

When I was 7, in 1914 the First World War started. The day it started was on August 4 and we were having a whole week's holiday -our very first holiday. We stayed at a little village called Kinver about 8 miles or so from West Bromwich. There was great excitement -fancy actually living and sleeping away from home for a whole week, and in the country at that, where there was grass, where trees grew, where cows and sheep quietly munched the green grass in the fields.

We had travelled to Kinver in our own wagonette -drawn by Jennie our Black Mare - how beautiful she was, her coat shining in the sunlight. When she was loosed in a field her joy knew no bounds, she galloped round and round the field, she ate the juicy grass until we thought she would burst. We arrived on the Saturday August 2 and by Monday August 4 we were just beginning to believe this heavenly existence was really true when suddenly all our joy was shattered - war had broken out between England and Germany, all our young men must be ready to go and fight, but even worse, so it seemed to us then, all fit horses had to be given up at once and were to be sent to the Front across the sea to Europe to play their part in the war. My heart was broken, I couldn't bear to think of Jennie going away from us to be in danger perhaps to get hurt or even killed. Even the thought that my beloved Queenie wouldn't have to go as she was too old was no consolation to me, Jenny our most handsome and aristocratic mare was to go, I would never see her again, I cried and cried. I was inconsolable. I wanted to go home, the country wasn't lovely anymore, I wanted to die. How could we get home without Jenny, what would happen to Queenie and Prince and the other horses if I couldn't get back home to help feed them, Jenny must go Queenie and the others would surely die without me. I was inconsolable.

Then my father had an idea. No one in Kinver knew we had Jennie -the soldiers would look for her in West Bromwich and find she wasn't there, so suppose we tried to hide her? The soldiers were coming to Kinver the next day -on the Tuesday, so after dark on the Monday night we led her quietly out of the field and hid her in a wood. Early on Tuesday morning I was sent into the wood to keep watch over Jennie, to give her carrots or apples or sugar lumps if she got restless. I could just see the road from my vantage post at the beginning of the wood. I would see the soldiers on their motor bikes as they turned into our lane to come up to the house and ask their questions. But this was never to be for as the two bikes turned into the lane one of them suddenly unaccountably burst into flames. The rider flung himself off his machine. Fortunately he wasn't burned but the accident put all thoughts of his search for horses out of his mind, he abandoned his blazing bike, hurriedly got on the back of the other bike and the two soldiers drove off at high speed. We never saw them again. The experience spoiled our holiday and thoroughly frightened us, so we went home on the Thursday. We kept Jennie in her stable as much as we could although the war lasted 4 years.

At last it was all over and we decided to enter Jennie and Queenie in the Peace Procession to celebrate. Prizes were to be given for the best decorated vehicles and all were to join in a grand Procession through the town. We decided to enter Jennie in her coal cart, and Queenie in her coal wagon. We washed and scrubbed the cart and the wagon, we sat up all night on the Friday night making hundreds of paper flowers red yellow and black for Jennie's cart -those were the colours of the Belgian Flag (Britain had gone to war to defend Belgium) and Red White and Blue for Queenie's wagon, the colours of the Union Jack. The horses, cart and wagon were completely covered with flowers and my two sisters and I sat on chairs on the wagon, dressed in white proudly we rode in the procession and Jennie, brilliant Little Belgium won second prize, but to us she was First Class.

During the war life was very unpleasant. What we hated most of all I think was our bread. We were short of flour and so our bread was made mostly out of potatoes and turned black in cooking. Ugh! How overjoyed we were at last to get white bread. We had no television, radio, cinemas, just an occasional theatre, but we made our own entertainment. Our greatest thrill was our Picture Book. We cut out all and any pictures we could get and put them between the pages of a book. Then we took it in turns to "pick a page" by sticking a pin between the edges of the pages, opening the book to that page and seeing which picture we had chosen. We played games -tag, hide-and-seek, cops and robbers, we raced, we jumped, we quarrelled and often we were sent early to bed as a punishment.

I didn't mind being sent to bed if I had a book to read. We had very few books so I read anything I could get hold of, how I loved What Katy Did, Treasure Island, The Water Babies, Little Women, Her Benny, Uncle Tom's Cabin -the list seems endless more especially as I was never allowed to read openly, it always had to be in secret for reading was regarded as a waste of time when household jobs needed to be done and my mother was too busy to do them all herself. We were put to bed -three in a bed, I had to sleep on the outside as I was the eldest, so I often woke up in the middle of the night on the floor under the bed, my sister Beaty was always very restless in bed and often pushed me out.

When we started school we were sent to a very good school, we were lucky that we were allowed to go to Birches Road as this was in a better part of the town from where we lived, our house was in Spon Lane and it was a very poor rough area. We were very proud to go to Birches Rd and the teachers there were very keen and encouraged us to "get a Scholarship". If we passed the Exam and got a Scholarship that meant we could go for 4 years to the local Grammar School, I knew if I didn't get a Scholarship I would never go to the Grammar School as most of the children could only go there of their parents paid for them to go. I worked very hard and got a Scholarship, but I was doomed to disappointment and not allowed to go, you see my mother had had another baby and my father was so pleased as the baby was a boy, James Wilfred.

My Mother couldn't look after us all and see to the Coal Yard as well so I had to let the Scholarship go and leave school so as to help my Mother. I looked after the baby a lot and loved doing it but he was never very strong and only lived just past his first birthday. I was 13 now and I think my Father realized how much I had lost by not being allowed to go to the Grammar School so he asked if I could sit the Scholarship Exam again. I had missed two very important years at the Grammar School, a lot of the subjects taken there I had hardly heard of so I wasn't very hopeful of passing the Exam. However I tried very hard and I passed. In fact I did so well that the Education Committee decided to encourage me by paying for all my books. This was most unusual as all students usually had to pay for their books. So here I was, starting two years behind, still helping at home with the household jobs and doing extra homework to catch up at school. Perhaps by modern standards our lives were a bit hard, but we had our pleasures and we learned to be happy and satisfied with simple things.

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